I Don’t (Part 2) – Saying No to Toxic People

It seems like everywhere we turn, we encounter toxic people. What are toxic people? Note what this psychcentral.com article has to say about it: “According to Gale, it’s common for people with toxic behavior to: create drama in their lives or be surrounded by it; try to manipulate or control others; be needy (“it is all about them all the time”); use others to meet their needs (such as “narcissistic parents”); be extremely critical of themselves and others; be jealous and envious of others, bemoaning their bad fortune and others’ good fortune; abuse substances or harm themselves in other ways, and be unwilling (or unable) to seek help from loved ones, a therapist or a recovery program.”

I saw a trend in my own life when I wanted to fix people. The problem was that they didn’t want to be fixed. They knew their lives were dysfunctional, but they did not want to take the steps to get out of their mess. There comes a time when you have to say “NO!” to these toxic, narcissistic, self-absorbed people. Let them suck the life out of someone else.

For those spiritual folks, I know you feel like toxic people might be your calling. If you know God has strategically placed you in someone’s life and vice versa, set boundaries! Also, don’t enable them! Give them the tools they need to function by themselves. 

I can’t tell you how many people I deal with in ministry settings that want me to make everything better. I can’t! Jesus can, but you and I have our part too. God doesn’t bless laziness!

The truth is that some folks cannot emotionally handle toxic people. They are not strong enough. The Bible says in I Corinthians 15:33 that “evil company corrupts good habits”. In other words, toxic people will pull you down. 

Am I saying to avoid toxic people like the plague? No! But know yourself and your boundaries. If you are the superhero type, you may want to back off. Pray for them, but they must take the initiative to detox. Remember that Jesus is the Savior, not you!

9 thoughts on “I Don’t (Part 2) – Saying No to Toxic People

  1. Oh, how timely. I just got off the phone with a toxic person. I wanted to take off my new clothes in Christ just for about five minutes and then pick them up again once I had told them off. Meditation is a good thing at times.

  2. Toxic people…I lived a toxic life. Sad but true. But I agree, they will bring u down if u let them and are not strong enough. I tried and tried with a coworker but now I just have to stay away. I say hello, converse for a bit then walk away because the negativity is so great it almost hurts.
    Great post!

      1. Very true. I’ll admit my life was very toxic for a good 2 decades. I was ashamed of that time but my God washed me clean and freed me from that. I try my best to stay on this side of the line. I don’t want to ever cross back. 😆❤👍☝

  3. I was one of those ‘toxic’ people 🙂 God is still working in my heart, Looking on to HIM the author and perfector of our faith. Yes, PRAYER WORKS! 🙂 🙂

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