Something triggered a thought recently of how I have burned some bridges over the years. I think we have all done that at least once. In my case, I was hurt by pastors I worked with or those in a church I pastored. In poor response, I said or did things to make it known how hurt I was. I have even made the mistake of airing my feelings on this blog or on Facebook. I’m afraid some of you who read this may be feeling guilty right now.
Sometimes we are never able to rebuild that bridge. We do harm that sticks with people, and we will either never receive forgiveness or never get a chance to make things right with someone because they told the whole town before they told us that we advertently or inadvertently hurt them.
I want to encourage you to cool off before you go blasting somebody on social media without calling out names (and I’m not suggesting to call names either). I have looked so foolish doing such things. I am so thankful for a sweet woman of God who sent me a private message on Facebook once after a comment I made out of discouragement, frustration, and anger. I removed it. We only make ourselves look worse when we broadcast our emotions for all to see.
On the flip side of this, some of us need to burn some bridges. Those bridges lead to people who have no business in our lives. They lead to habits that must be left behind. They lead to regret and past sin that has already been forgiven. Those rickety bridges will lead you to a life of ruin because they are not made of solid material.
So about burning bridges…keep the bridges maintained that will connect you to people who will be a blessing in your life and leave them constructed as an example to those who are not acting in a godly manner. Tear down the ones that will lead you back to habits, people, and things that will destroy you. Do you see a “bridge”? Ask God what you should do – burn it or strengthen it?