Don’t Expect the Pastor to Do What You’re Not Willing to Do

I know some of you who are reading this are acting like I just used God’s name in vain or slapped you in the face. I have heard from countless people about what a pastor should or should not do, and they have no Bible to back it up. Some family member, deacon, or other misinformed person said, “The preacher should…” or “If the preacher doesn’t do this or that, we should fire him.” 

I’m going to be so bold and daring and ask this question: If you love God enough and say you’re His child, why wouldn’t you be willing to visit the sick, talk about the Lord, feed the homeless, help encourage a grieving family, or any other thing people say only pastors are supposed to do? Is it that you don’t get paid for it? Do you expect it from the pastor because he gets payment from the church with part of your tithe? (The sad part is that some who expect so much from the pastor don’t give a dime or time to the Lord. Did you notice I said “to the Lord” and not “to the preacher” or “to the church”?)

I used to be bothered by church members who walked up to me like a hired hand and told me to do something. They had these great ideas and were physically capable to help, but they expected me to do so since I was paid by the church. The last time I checked, we are co-laborers. We work together. No one person is more important than another although we function differently in the body of Christ.

Let me leave you with this Scripture about humility and servitude: “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth; And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:5-11‬ ‭KJV‬‬


17 thoughts on “Don’t Expect the Pastor to Do What You’re Not Willing to Do

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  1. Yes,amen! We all have a ministry of our own to do.

    I call that pastor ping pong. I once sat in a church where we’d all look to one side of the room to hear the needs, and then look over to the other side where the pastor was as if he were expected to fix it all. It was like watching a tennis match or something. 🙂

    1. The craziest complaint I received was from a lady who told the chairman of deacons that I was not attentive to the needs of her family. It was interesting that I was present for two of her mother’s surgeries, and she was not there either time. I also visited with her daughter who was paralyzed. I brought that to the deacon’s attention, but the ministry was built on pacification rather than what really matters to God. There were so many good people, but the establishment was the group that was used to getting their way. When the focus began to turn toward Christ, it was amazing how many people objected.

  2. Hi Pastor Matthew,
    Oh, how I understand. Nothing more frustrating than to have planned something with the family and then have to cancel because this church related matter that any one of the members could do, that in there estimation could only be done by a pastor in their estimation. Interestingly, I finally found these to be educational opportunities. How you ask? By saying, “You are correct this is important, why don’t we support each other in this ministry and I will go with you.”

    It took a while with several interesting conversations along the way, but they started to see these things were not so difficult and they could participate and even enjoy themselves.

    Blessings to You and Your Ministry
    Pastor Lester

  3. Well said, Pastor Matthew. Jesus never instructed us to have our spiritual leaders do our work for us, but to get out and “get dirty” doing kingdom work. You put it well when you wrote: “The last time I checked, we are co-laborers. We work together. No one person is more important than another although we function differently in the body of Christ.” A hearty amen!

  4. A number of very good points, preacher! We are all ministers to the world in the name of Christ Jesus…we all should follow what the Lord has set for us to do in His word.


      1. If we are true to our calling we do the work which God has planned for us to do.

  5. We’ve sold our culture a consumeristic church model for decades. You can walk into a store and get EXACTLY what you want with no hassle. We’ve allowed that mindset into our churches. And this is the result.

    1. Yes. This is true across the board. I’m working on a rap right now that has the lyrics:

      Addicted to consumption
      So we’re living like we’re fiends
      Only find meaning
      When we get a bunch of things

      We treat each other like things. Sometimes worse than we treat things. But we are called to love so…

      This is a loving admonishment.

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