I have been hearing a lot recently about how people have thought they had great friends and are discovering that the friendship is very one-sided. We all have these types of people who are in and out of our lives. You may be reading this, and you are disheartened. That friend who meant the world to you now acts like you don’t exist. I would like to share with you some things God taught me as people exited my life.
- Some people are toxic and need to go. They are they to drain your energy and pull you down so they can feel better. Let them go while praying that they will see how self-centered they truly are and become selfless.
- Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. They will serve a purpose in your life for a brief time and move on. You and I have to learn how to understand these seasons and purposes and accept God’s timing for their exodus.
- Some people must go because they are unintentionally keeping you from your purpose. This has been the case with many who have exited my life in the last few years. I cherished some friendships and put people on pedestals. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with these people, but I would not be on the path I am today had I continue to walk with them. Their exodus from my life ultimately led me to greater compassion and understanding for those who are hurting. I would have never stepped out to start Overcomers Church and would have been sitting safely within a denominational comfort zone feeling like a fish out of water.
I discovered that the ones who stayed love me despite the different path I have taken. I have received such encouragement from them. We may not see eye to eye philosophically, but those who love you will be there through disagreements and all.
The Bible has many great things to say about friends. My favorite is this: “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends” (John 15:13 NKJV). When a friend will go through the fire with you and sacrifice anything for you, you know you have a true friend. I am glad to tell you today that the greatest Friend you will ever have is Jesus Christ. Others will betray you; He will never forsake you.
Matthew Winters (Honest Thoughts from a Pastor) 
So true about seasons! Awesome how you brought it back to J.C as well Matt!. Great post.
The lesson was painful, but I’m glad God taught me and has placed some great people in my life.
Yeah dude I have grieved much over relationships that I thought were slowly dying but in fact it was just time for a different season. Good to be able to discern that stuff.
I’ve never thought about it this way before. Thanks for sharing this!
It took me a while to accept what God was teaching me in this area. I’m thankful that He will use it to help others.
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Some thought provoking advice!
This is so encouraging! It really helps to try and look at the bigger picture! Sometimes things need to change and the circumstances will eventually, and hopefully be understood. Blessings! xoxo
It takes time and can be painful. The beautiful part is seeing how God orchestrated it to make us who we are. God bless you too!