Being Offended

This subject has been on my mind for some time, but it was brought to the forefront today when Roseanne was cancelled due to a racial remark made by Roseanne Barr. There is never an appropriate time to make a racist statement from your mouth, social media account, or however you decide to publicize it. It is, however, discouraging that certain camps of people can offend others without accountability while others make one statement and are immediately and severely punished. There has to be a standard across the board. I now want to take the attention off Hollywood and turn it toward you and me – the common, everyday people. Who has authority to make such a standard? And where can we find that standard? God has set it forth in the Bible.

Note what Jesus says in Luke 17:1-4:

“Then He said to the disciples, ‘It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.'”

  • Offenses are inevitable. We will all offend someone in our lifetime.
  • Offense is sin, without it is done purposely or in ignorance, if it makes someone stumble in their faith.
  • Offense requires that you go to the one who offended you. (I know that the cowardly, easy way is to let everyone else know about it. Unfortunately, this is the popular method.)
  • Offense requires you to forgive. This passage of Scripture speaks about forgiving if the person is repentant. What if the person does not care about offending you? Forgive anyway. You release yourself from the prison of unforgiveness.

You and I will be offended by many things in life. We will be offended by things we see or hear on the radio or television. We will be offended by what we see and hear from politicians. We will be offended by something a preacher says or does. I could go on forever. We will not always have the opportunity to address the offender, but we can always look at the man or woman in the mirror and change. The bottom line is that I will answer for one person’s actions when I stand before the Lord Jesus – mine. That is enough to make me think a little more before I speak or act.

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18 thoughts on “Being Offended

  1. A topic referred too often in my place of worship lately is how so many decisions these days are based on HUMAN WISDOM, and not GOD’s wisdom. Although this speaks to that situation, it seems that so many now choose HUMAN WISDOM as their reference point. It’s a sad state of affairs.

  2. It’s so crazy how broken this world is and you made such a perfect point : “It is, however, discouraging that certain camps of people can offend others without accountability while others make one statement and are immediately and severely punished. There has to be a standard across the board.” It is a challenge to try to forgive someone but I know that with God and the Holy Spirit dwelling inside me, it is possible!

  3. Excellent way to address this. You know that the book, “The Bait of Satan” addresses this very issue. It is about how the enemy draws us into the trap of being offended by our brothers and sisters in Christ and holding on to the grudge of those offenses. It is particularly easy for our flesh to take hold and run with the ball of offense. Thank you for sharing. I agree that if we really consider what the Word says about this, we would be much more careful about what comes out of our mouths. Life and death are in the power of the tongue especially when we take offense to something we really should let roll off our backs.

  4. On point! God knows how many times I have struggled (I know I am not alone) with the spirit of offense. Yet, the quicker I have been to forgive (as I have been forgiven) the quicker I have been able to overcome the injury to my ego. As Sandra stated, it is a trap. A trap I refuse to fall into it ever again. I agree with you 100% in that we need to be more conscious about what comes out of our mouth, our actions, and for us bloggers and SM posters, our keyboards! Yet, I am reminded that Jesus was not popular with everyone, especially the zealots. Our uncompromising stance on God’s word and morality will always end up offending someone. But as long as we express our views/opinions with love and the right motive, that should not count as a “woe” against us. Thank you, Matthew, for shining the light of Christ.

  5. It took me a long time to look beyond a person’s words in order to get to the root of their heart. That’s what Roseanne needs from all of us. To look beyond the flesh and observe her through the eyes of God. I can’t call myself a child of God if I don’t embody the fruits of the Spirit. As you stated above forgiveness is key. If all God did was look at my sin instead of the fact that I was His and by Christ I can receive His amazing grace..😑..Thats a world that I don’t want to live in. From Roseanne to Trump, I think God is presenting us as His children with these amazing opportunities to show what it means to be His. To Him we aren’t a color or a political party. We’re just His. I don’t know about anyone else, but I plan on suffocating ignorance, hate, racism, bigotry, sexism and every other scheme of the enemy with God. I will love, pray and forgive until each person is healed from each one these evil spirits.

  6. I most certainly agree! It’s times like these where we must pray for those like Roseanne, but we should also make sure we look at ourselves as well. Though we will not be able to sit down and talk with those who have caused offense, we can limit the amount of offenses by watching what we say or do by asking ourselves if Christ would like the words or actions that would come out of our mouths!

    God bless you, and thank you for your perspective! It is very needed during this time! 🙂

  7. This is a strong message that everyone needs to hear, read, and understand again and again. 🙂 God expects all of us to forgive one another. This is an example of what happens when we don’t listen to God’s messages first. To this day, I keep her in my prayers and hope that she’s staying strong throughout this unfortunate thing. In the end, I agree with you when you said that “we can only answer for ourselves,” … and it’s true. When we forgive, not only are we forgiving the intended person, but we are freeing ourselves and we are proving to God that we honor Him by doing such deeds. He sees that and will reward us for that somehow in some unknown way.

    Continue staying strong, Brother Matthew! 🙂

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