Uncompromised

As our church is seeking out volunteers, we have put word out on Facebook for key leaders in worship, youth, children, etc. I thought I would not hear from anyone, but I have been surprised. From singers that want a place to be a superstar to people with good intentions, the spectrum has been broader than I imagined.

Today, I had a conversation with someone who was interested in an area of ministry. From the onset of the conversation, I let this individual know that I am divorced and remarried. I am very up front about that because I don’t want drama later from those who feel like I have no place leading a church or preaching. I was surprised that it was an 8-minute conversation because I shared about myself within the first 2 minutes. The conversation went into an area of doctrine. I have no disrespect for this individual because he was respectful, but he told me after the few minutes of doctrinal discussion that my divorce was a “dealbreaker” for him. That is completely fine. God will use this person in His kingdom work with his set of beliefs as God will use me with mine.

Either of us could have easily compromised our position because of my desire to place someone in this position or his desire to be used of God. While we disagree, I admire that he did not compromise his position. If he does not find me fit to pastor because of my situation and holds that as a conviction, he has every right. He was apologetic and left an invitation open to meet despite the fact that he would not work with me in a pastor-staff setting.

Many of us compromise our standards based on desperation. We settle for the wrong man or woman because of our desperation. We compromise financial principles. We hire the wrong people because we absolutely HAVE to fill the position. Acts of compromise ALWAYS come with a price!

If you are tempted to compromise, wait on the Lord just a little bit longer. Just as I cannot afford to put the wrong people in the wrong places to protect the flock to which God called me, you cannot afford to make a mistake that will risk your family, your finances, your faith. You’ll be glad you waited.

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7 thoughts on “Uncompromised

  1. This would have been really tough for me to handle, I am humbled by your response. Way to go! Many people could have went a different direction and yet you seem to have taken the high road and accepted it willingly.
    I do have high regard for people who are not willing to budge out of holding fast to their beliefs but it would be hard to not take this one personally!
    You are awesome for staying so positive!

  2. Somewhat funny, Matthew, I have two pastors on the ground here, because I’m extra blessed. The first one I adore because he and his wife have been married since they were like, 17. The other one I adore because he is divorced and his faith, his grace, his perseverance within a churchian culture that is not always understanding, is just beautiful.

    All in good humor here, but sometimes I wish people who have these kind of “doctrinal issues” around divorce would come visit me. I could show them actual stuff that would bring some much needed perspective, have them feeling quite grateful to have such a first world Christian problem.

  3. G’day Matt, I hope your well dude.

    A couple of things that jumped out and spoke to me,

    “Acts of compromise ALWAYS come with a price!” – Crikey that’s so true, I look back on the times that I have paid the price…its just not worth it hey..but sometimes lessons need to be learn right?

    And

    ” you are tempted to compromise, wait on the Lord just a little bit longer. Just as I cannot afford to put the wrong people in the wrong places to protect the flock to which God called me, you cannot afford to make a mistake that will risk your family, your finances, your faith. You’ll be glad you waited.” – Lots of wisdom here mate. Reminds me of that scripture that says “Wait for the LORD. Be strong and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for the lord. (Psalm 27:14). I reckon it takes courage not to compromise.

    Thanks heaps for sharing

  4. I needed this. I try to people please way too much even when there is a misunderstanding and I get hurt too. Christ has reminded me multiple times not to let my Pearl’s get trampled. It is ok to try, He teaches that, but if things do not work out or if we are not accepted that’s ok too.

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