As our church is seeking out volunteers, we have put word out on Facebook for key leaders in worship, youth, children, etc. I thought I would not hear from anyone, but I have been surprised. From singers that want a place to be a superstar to people with good intentions, the spectrum has been broader than I imagined.
Today, I had a conversation with someone who was interested in an area of ministry. From the onset of the conversation, I let this individual know that I am divorced and remarried. I am very up front about that because I don’t want drama later from those who feel like I have no place leading a church or preaching. I was surprised that it was an 8-minute conversation because I shared about myself within the first 2 minutes. The conversation went into an area of doctrine. I have no disrespect for this individual because he was respectful, but he told me after the few minutes of doctrinal discussion that my divorce was a “dealbreaker” for him. That is completely fine. God will use this person in His kingdom work with his set of beliefs as God will use me with mine.
Either of us could have easily compromised our position because of my desire to place someone in this position or his desire to be used of God. While we disagree, I admire that he did not compromise his position. If he does not find me fit to pastor because of my situation and holds that as a conviction, he has every right. He was apologetic and left an invitation open to meet despite the fact that he would not work with me in a pastor-staff setting.
Many of us compromise our standards based on desperation. We settle for the wrong man or woman because of our desperation. We compromise financial principles. We hire the wrong people because we absolutely HAVE to fill the position. Acts of compromise ALWAYS come with a price!
If you are tempted to compromise, wait on the Lord just a little bit longer. Just as I cannot afford to put the wrong people in the wrong places to protect the flock to which God called me, you cannot afford to make a mistake that will risk your family, your finances, your faith. You’ll be glad you waited.